The End of the School Year = A Big Transition
Even if your child can’t tell time or count the days, they’re listening. They hear things like:
- “You’re going to have so much fun at summer camp!”
- “You’re going to have a new teacher next year!”
- “We’re going on a summer vacation!”
- “After the summer, you’re going to the big kids’ school for Kindergarten!”
Transitions—even exciting ones—can create stress. And kids who needed extra support during the year often need more support during times of change.
Regression Isn’t Failure—It’s a Signal
If your child made amazing progress this year but is suddenly struggling again? That’s normal. It doesn’t mean the support didn’t work. It just means their system is under pressure again. But What If Support Was Never Put in Place?
Let’s talk about the “wait and see” approach. Here’s what we know:
Kids don’t usually grow out of challenging or concerning behaviors—they grow into new versions of them.
What doesn’t go away on its own?
- Chronic frustration
- Emotional reactivity
- Impulsivity
- Retained reflexes
What we often see as “misbehavior” is actually a child hitting their limit.
When Skills Lag Behind, Behavior Breaks Down
When the demands placed on your child outpace their current skills—especially in areas like:
- Emotional regulation
- Frustration tolerance
- Critical thinking under stress
—we often see what Dr. Ross Greene calls “incompatibility episodes.” These are the outbursts, refusals, and shutdowns that show up when expectations exceed ability.
So What Can You Actually Do?
- Start Early.
Preschool is a powerful window to close skill gaps—and avoid years of struggle.
- Stay Connected.
Already working with a provider? Don’t wait until a new issue shows up. Be proactive.
- Get Moving.
Not everything has to be therapy. Try:
- More time in nature
- Swimming
- Martial arts
- Dance
These movement-based activities support brain-body development in powerful ways.
Curious how reflex integration could support your child? Let’s talk—whether you’re looking for guidance, want to schedule a session, or just need help figuring out if this work is right for your family. And if you’re not quite sure what reflex integration is or why it matters, check out this article on reflexes in preschoolers to learn more.